I have a cousin. Never mentioned her on this blog before. Early twenties. She has a Black (I would say negro as that’s back in style) boyfriend. He was supposed to make it to our recent family reunion on Christmas, but one of her parents told her he couldn’t come because “you aren’t embarrassing me.”
Why?
I suggest you go through my blog and read volumes 1 through 9.
“You can’t expect a young woman to like a certain type of man, when 90 percent of the neighborhood she grew up in is one color.”
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10 responses right now ↓
1 Goddess Intellect // Jan 11, 2010 at 3:53 pm
some things never change smh
2 admin // Jan 11, 2010 at 4:00 pm
They just don’t.
3 Milyna // Jan 11, 2010 at 5:55 pm
Some people have selective memory or aren’t informed about their own heritage. I don’t know why (no matter how dark their own skin color is) Dominicans want to deny that they are African, this self hatred must stop.
4 admin // Jan 11, 2010 at 5:57 pm
I totally agree Milyna. Are you Dominican yourself? I checked out your blog and I know there are many in the Boston area. Have you encountered Dominicans with the same self hate or racial animus? Thanks for commenting and I hope you continue visiting.
5 Joshua Kissi // Jan 11, 2010 at 10:15 pm
Very true Milyna hit it right on the head as far knowing your own history and heritage. It’s a sad thing really..
6 KT // Jan 12, 2010 at 11:29 pm
So what did your cousin do/say? not surprised by the request by the mom. But is the mother accepting of it in private, just not when among other Dominicans?
7 admin // Jan 13, 2010 at 10:37 am
She accepted the decision because she didn’t want to start any trouble. She’s still dating the guy of course. Most Dominicans in my family are pretty open about it. They aren’t one way in public and one way in private. Some may be, but most are pretty open about it.
8 Milyna // Jan 14, 2010 at 7:48 pm
No, I’m not Dominican, I’m Puerto Rican and Black. But I am mistaken for being Dominican all the time. And once an older Dominican woman didn’t know that I was black and referred to a black man walking by as a “mono”-I was astonished since this woman was considerably dark (and darker than I am) and she had the nerve to call him a monkey? Pure ignorance. I then lost my cool and informed her I was black and did not appreciate the remark and I tried to inform her that her ancestors were most likely African. She was not hearing it and refused to entertain what I was trying to tell her.
This was only one of many encounters I have had like this. I just don’t understand….. it’s only pigmentation.
Thanks for checking out my blog-hope you visit us again.
9 admin // Jan 15, 2010 at 12:12 pm
Milyna -
I’ve gone through similar things. Sometimes it’s not always those of the lighter hue who are the racist ones; it can also be those who are the same complexion as us. Sad stuff.
10 Heather Killeen // Mar 18, 2010 at 2:02 pm
Hi Claudio!
Love your stuff. Love your brain.
I’m your average mutt-I just look white. My family raised me to love people no matter what-of course, a few of the more racist family members told me that my philosophy of peace/love/freedom/happiness would “change when i grow up”. Nope, I never changed. Neither did the hatred. As I grew I found out that some Puerto Ricans and Dominicans hate each other, Dominicans hate Cubans, Latinos hate Blacks, everyone hates Mexicans, and Mexicans hate Salvadorians. WTF? And everyone hates whites, including whites. It’s ridiculous. Isn’t it so much easier to LOVE? It was easy then,it’s easy now. I don’t think it’s a naive way to live at all. It does take a bit more courage and patience, but it’s well worth it.
Thanks for listening, and thanks for writing!
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